Living Our Dream Life

"We are going stir crazy." "We are going to live in a motor home and travel." "We are going to home-school our boys so they get a more hands on education." "We are going to sell it all and hit the open road to live our life on our terms."

If these thoughts sound familiar to you, then you share our dreams. After researching everything we could possibly get our hands on to try and figure out how people are actually making a living doing this full time with children, my mind was bamboozled with questions left unanswered.

"How do I home-school on the road with no permanent address?" "If we have tried online sales, marketing, website building, freelancing, and so many other ways people say they make money to live, with no luck, what do we do?" "How will my kids adjust to this new lifestyle?" "If we sell everything and venture out, what do we do if it doesn't work and we have no furniture, and no money to buy new furniture?"

You see, I was raised to believe that in life we grow up, go to school, buy a house, settle down, have a family, and stay there forever in our secure lives where nothing will come up to surprise or stress us out. The problem with this is that the life in which I, along with most others I know, have been conditioned to accept as "how life is" for their whole lives--while I had accepted it for myself--was never the life I truly longed to live. I knew there had to be more to life than the same routine day in and day out. There had to be adventure. The small home that I dreamed of as a "base" for my travels one day had to exist.

After meeting my husband and having children, we still both were not prepared to settle for a life of mundane day to day tasks, in which everything stayed the same all the time with no variation. That is not the type of people either of us are, nor is it the type of children our beautiful little boys are. We all long for adventure and to see the world every single day.

If this is the case, why were we living the same life every single day? The answer is simple, and one I'm sure everyone has felt at one time or another in their lives--fear. All of the constant "what if's" and all of the people constantly telling us we were crazy for even entertaining the thought of something more kept us from spreading our wings...until we changed all of that.

We began to realize that no one is in charge of our happiness except us. No one was going to make our dreams come true for us. We had to do it for ourselves, regardless what other people thought about it, and regardless of the unknown.

We had to open that door to a new life filled with new ideas and new adventures no matter the cost. We sat down and discussed the unknown--all of the questions or concerns that we had, and quickly realized that we have always done what we need to in a pinch--we could work anywhere, settle down for a while anywhere, or change things up whenever we wanted. After all, we would literally be driving and living in our home with everything we needed! The problem we faced upon making this decision was that we were living paycheck to paycheck as it was. How would we ever get enough money to buy a motor home, renovate it, and get a generator, solar system, and all the other things we needed to live the type of life we dreamed of living?

Many times in our lives, we hit hardships where we had to sell things to make ends meet, sacrifice our time with our children to both work full time jobs, or get creative with starting side businesses to try and make some extra cash to get by. Yes, at one point in our life together, we spent money very frivolously and lost a lot because of it. It was a huge learning experience. However, whenever we would struggle, we always found a way to make it through--at one point, a local church and it's congregation helped us out immensely even though we never attended. They covered our bills for a while when my husband was away, including food expenses, and brought over casseroles until we were able to find jobs and get back on our feet. Our accountant did our taxes free of charge for a while and covered my cell phone bill to help out. People we met a handful of times in our pasts came out of the woodwork and made whatever monetary donations they were able to. At the time, all of my pride and strength was gone and I felt every day that I was failing my children and my family. This was not a situation I ever saw myself in, let alone when I had a family. I was completely broken.

4 Nuts In A Shell, Coffee Nut, Broken Spirit

I was dangerously slim from skipping meals so my children had enough to eat. I was stressed to the max and didn't think I was going to make it through, regardless of all the selfless help we had received. Just asking for help had knocked me down to a level I felt I would never recover from. The way I was raised dictated it was unethical and never okay to ask anyone for help when you, yourself, were in fact responsible for the situation you are in. At the time, I blamed everyone and everything--I blamed my husband constantly for all the money we lost, when I sat there and told the bank to give me access to my savings and then gave all of those stores and businesses my card to take the money off of. I blamed where we moved for having no jobs for the people living here. I blamed myself daily for a very long time for being a "deadbeat mom who couldn't provide for her family". I blamed God, I blamed the world, I blamed every single bad decision I ever made.

So what did I do? For starters, I pulled my head out of my ass! I applied for subsidy, got my kids in daycare full time, applied for EIA (employment and income assistance) through the government, sent resumes to every single business listing in the area (both hiring and not), sorted out a bunch of issues with CRA regarding the release of funds they owed us, and started looking to and praying to a higher power every day for guidance and strength. I wasn't sure how much that would help as I was not a hugely spiritual person, but I thought it definitely couldn't hurt.

After my kids had been in daycare for a couple weeks, I got a job one town over. A week after that, the funds were released to us from the government and I was able to catch up on some bills and buy my kids Christmas presents. My husband made it back home right before Christmas as the best surprise our family could have ever asked for. In the new year, he too found employment. All good right? Not exactly. You see, we were so behind in car payments, that our vehicle was seized from us a while later. My husband had a work truck that we continued to use to get us both to work, and the kids to and from daycare from then on.

Why am I telling you all of this background mumbo-jumbo? Because I needed to make a point. We were at rock bottom--almost lost our apartment too--but we never gave up, and we refuse to. You see, we made the ultimate promise the week we met. We made a choice to have children and promised to do whatever it took to make sure they were always happy, clothed, fed, and had a roof over their heads. Many times my children saved me and gave me the strength I needed to keep going.

Get to the point already right? No problem. I'm not saying our journey is the same or like anyone else's. I'm not saying that what we have done or chosen to do is going to be right for anyone else. What I AM saying is that if you want it bad enough, you will find a way to change your own situation.

We have stopped focusing every single decision we make on money. I blog because I have always loved to write. My husband published a book on his experiences called, "The Road to PYHOOYA", and we have began "The PYHOOYA Project" in the hopes that someone else out there would like to help us achieve our dreams, enrich our children's lives, and better our world through selfless acts of kindness and paying forward the generosity and kindness we have been shown. I start a new job on Monday and my husband is taking over the daycare I was running. We are doing what it takes to get where we want to be, because we are NOT quitters!

"Rome wasn't built in a day." "Live your life and do it on purpose."

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